I'd like to know what evolutionary purpose the limp noodle move serves.
I'm sure you know the move I'm talking about. Somewhere around 16 to 18 months, the child learns to have a temper tantrum. As an adult who occasionally has temper tantrums, I can understand this developmental milestone.
However, the temper-tantruming child who has learned to convert his/her bones to jello (aka the limp noodle move) while still screaming/crying/fussing/carrying on is the worst. Sometimes you can't let the tantrum ride it out. You have to pick said child up.
There is absolutely nothing like picking up a stream of squirming, twisting jello-child. Who oozes out your fingers and slithers back to the ground.
Tell me what evolutionary purpose this serves? Why do children learn how to do this and who teaches them? 'Cause I have a choice word or two for them.
In the meantime, any techniques on handling this phase?
Friday, April 24, 2009
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Oh man, am I familiar with that. I always thought it was the slippery snake move myself. It's amzing how they can collapse their shoulders in to their chests. That leads to my advice.
When it becomes absolutely necessary to restrain,I mean, hold on to the possessed child, do so on the outside of the shoulders, arms pinned to the sides. This will not stop the tantrum but you can now at least remove them from the crowd gathering to see what all the commotion is about. What you do to/ with them from there is all a matter of self control :)
Good luck Mandy. I wish I could say that it's a short phase but then again you'd never believe me since you know Dryden.
You already explained it: so predators (like mean Mommies) can't pick them up. (I'm being scientific and serious by the way.)
how bout a swift kick in the pants?
who is the boss - da kid or da parent?
Oh goody. My first troll.
If you're going to give fantastic parenting advice anon, do have the balls to leave your real name.
we didn't have the limp noodle we had the stiff one. don't know which one I would prefer.
This might sound silly but have you ever heard of the 5 (I think it's five) Love Languages. Never read the book, it's huge down here in the south as it's possible it has some kind of religious undertones, but it talks about how you like to show and receive love. I found out about it from different mothering groups. Started out dealing with adults then the author/researcher went into children. I realized that G is a touch/quality time person. So the worst thing that can happen to him is to have to be by himself or not be able to touch you. So, this is how we discipline him. When he would become a stiff noodle and the whole tantrum thing we would put him somewhere (safe) by himself and it killed him. Or if we were carrying him we would put him down (again, safe place). Actually we still use this. Nothing is worse for him than being by himself.
This actually might not make any sense whatsoever at all! Our computer keeps crashing and I'm trying to get it all out. If I don't make sense email me!
Missed ya!!! ;)
Mandy, I read, you asked, I answered. Now you wanna get all snippy. Bu-Bye!
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